Mature Resources - Dolores Hagen

A Different View of The Sunset Years

By Dolores Hagen, CPCC

A friend was about to celebrate his 65 birthday and the neighborhood children asked him how old he was. He told them he was in his "Sunset Years." Later that day, the children knocked on his door and presented him with a cupcake with one candle and an obviously handmade card. It had beautiful colors and a big half sun and a moon in the sky. The card said, "Happy Birthday, Your Sun Has Set."

Loneliness is a Choice

By Dolores Hagen, CPCC

Feeling lonely is a debilitating condition. Fortunately there’s lot we can do about it. There’s a big difference between being alone and being lonely.

One of my greatest fears after my divorce was that I would always be alone. After 25 years of marriage and raising three sons, I felt lost and isolated. At that time I had my own business and used the problem/decision/results method whenever I worked with a client. So one night, restless and extremely lonely, I thought about trying this method to solve my problem. Here’s how it went:

Dolores Hagen

Dolores Hagen - Women Over 60 Expert

Dolores Hagen is a certified life coach whose desire is to enhance the lives of women like her...over 60…who want to make this phase of life a fulfilling, joyful time, full of beauty and vitality, whether working or retired. As the owner of a marketing communications firm for over 15 years, she worked with small businesses to create winning images and media coverage for her clients. Additionally, she taught men and women how to discover their best image through color analysis, wardrobe planning, makeup and visual poise at a modeling school. Dolores' goal is to make coaching available for each woman who wants her inner beauty and outside beauty to be in sync. www.sixtyandsensational.com

Here’s What’s Great About Being Over Sixty

By Dolores Hagen CPCC

“A woman should have: a youth she’s content to leave behind….” Maya Angelou

Have you noticed that we spend our youth waiting to grow up and our grown up years trying to be young? When we’re children, we imagine a life of fame, fortune and beauty. Some of us actually manifest that dream, while many are still wondering what to be when we grow up. Then there are those of us who know exactly what we want to be when we grow up and don’t know how to get there.

How to Listen With Your Heart

By Dolores Hagen, CPCC

Have you ever watched the TV show,” Frasier?” Although it’s a comedy, the way he starts his radio show with, “Hello…I’m listening,” is the number one principle in relationships with anyone. Only after he’s listened does he dispense his advice to the caller. He reminds me that so often we say, “I’m listening,” but really, we’re not. We’re involved with our own thought processes.

Have your ever experienced this? I have both as a listener and as the speaker.

The subtle, perhaps unconscious, thoughts are: (1) What does this have to do with me? (2) When he/she stops talking, I’ll tell them even a better story, and (3) He/she’s doing it all wrong and needs help, followed by, “Here’s what I would do…”.

During coaches’ training there were many things that changed my life. The biggest learning that overrides the many lessons I came away with is the emphasis on listening…listening at a level that goes beyond hearing the words, beyond the book learning and beyond the advice-giving. What a life coach does is really hear what the person being coached is saying at an intuitive or heart level.